Have you seen the follow up to Disney’s & Pixar’s film Finding Nemo? It is called Finding Dory and the premise of both films is that someone precious is lost and the heroes spend their time searching until they can find their loved one. The pain of Fear, in all its elements and range is when you experience it you also lose something precious.
FoMo stands for the Fear of Missing Out, it is a fear that creeps in through the backdoor, and many might not be aware that they are experiencing it.
What FoMo Means to You
Have you ever been at an event when you are with good people and enjoying yourself but you notice that there is another group of people who you know, who are laughing, joking and appearing to be having the time of their life? All of a sudden, you are discontented with where you are and who you are with and you want to be part of the other group. You feel that you are missing out!
Sheryl told me, that she has her email open all the time and responds quickly. When she is away from the computer, she will constantly check her phone for incoming emails. She knows that it is a time stealer, disrupter of her work and annoying to those she is with but she cannot help herself. She is afraid that she will miss out by not knowing.
Kym shared with me that she often wants to be doing an alternative activity to the one she is at. When at work she would rather be relaxing and when relaxing she becomes too busy with work. I can relate to this because when I am writing, I am pulled towards working outside creating my garden, and when I am building walls outside, my thoughts travel towards a blog that I need to write! FOMO strikes here once more and Kym sums it up in this way, “I spend my time looking for better moments instead of enjoying the current moment.”
Is it time for us to put behind the way we behaved as children? We see children who will fight or throw a tantrum when they want another child’s toy. Once they have the toy, it is discarded, they cried for what they had not got, without knowing that they didn’t really want or need it.
FoMo moments occur when you channel hop, the remote in your hand, searching for the other programme you may have missed.
It has toxic moments when you stand in front of the grocery aisle and are overwhelmed with the amount of choice there is for food and making a simple meal.
It might be at the background of Britain’s upset with one another over leaving the European Union? The Brexit course which we are undergoing has seen immense argument, upset and confusion between people throughout Britain. If FoMo is the root cause, those who voted to leave will be left wondering if their decision was correct, being besieged with doubts as we may suddenly miss out on what Europe has by no longer remaining part of it! Those who wanted to stay will often be looking over their shoulders at what they are missing.
Marketers use scarcity all the time, with building the tension that a product will run out soon or is only open for a limited time, a bargain price will end and if you don’t buy now it will be gone. It builds on the FoMo in you and pushes you into an action you might normally have taken. It fits impulse buying with grabbing a bargain rather than a considered decision to buy.
Fear of any sort drains your current energy and when it is not in response to a life-threatening situation contaminates you with doubt, discontent and disappointment.
You need to find your way through FoMo and any other kind of fear that stops you in your tracks. Would you like to become a Fearless person and know that you are in control, making the right decisions and giving great responses to situations every time? My diary is open (and not for a limited time) to take your call or to arrange a time when we can talk more on how you can be Fearless in your approach to life.
Meanwhile here is a free FoMo Table with how to counteract it by becoming Fearless.
When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child.
But when I grew up, I put away childish things.
1 Corinthians 13:11 (NLT)
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